"Paging Dr. Dude, there’s a sexist in Exam Room 2."- June 29, 2010
Okay, call me a sexist. But, I like a woman Gynecologist better. I’ve always had one. I’m more comfortable. I look at a man who’s an OB/GYN and I think, “So, are you some kind of perv or something? I mean, what possessed influenced you to go into this field of medicine?” To me it’s like an auto mechanic who’s never owned a car.
I know you’re waiting for the standard double standard that goes along with sexism and I won’t disappoint. Here it is. I wouldn’t think twice about a woman being a Urologist. I mean, an OB/GYN is so overwhelmingly personal. (Although, correct me if I’m wrong guys but I hear the Urologist can get pretty personal too.) But, I don’t just mean the speculum. Think of the decisions you make in the OB’s office, the questions you ask. This doctor is helping you make life choices concerning reproduction, fertility, and childbirth. Those are a big deal. I’m not saying a man couldn’t do it. It’s just not the same. The only man I want to discuss childbirth decisions with is Greyson.
The OB practice I’m going to now has six doctors. Five are women and one man. You rotate through all of them during your pregnancy and you get whoever’s on call the day you deliver.
Today was the day to put my prejudice aside. It was our 22 week appointment. I got to meet the Man Doctor. Mr. OB/GYN himself. Thankfully this was a non-invasive appointment. (But, it’s not like that will matter delivery day.)
I sized him up when he walked in, the formentioned questions zooming around my brain. But, I have to say. He seemed alright. He was obviously experienced. We talked about weight, he measured the belly, we heard the heartbeat. All was right in babyland.
As we were leaving Greyson asked me if I’d be alright with him at the hospital. I said I would be. But, really what choice do I have? If I had to guess, I’ll end up with him delivering my baby. Proving once more, if you’re prejudice, you may get no deliverance.
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Call me crazy, but my two favorite docs are male. And the same male doc delivered both my boys – he happened to be on call for both!
I'm totally with you on the preferring a female doc. I'm glad you like this doc, but you still wonder why they chose that field…
Totally agree about preferring a female doc. I'm glad you like your guy though!
It's fun that I go to the same OB as you so I know who you are talking about. Mr. OB/GYN certainly doesn't ooze personality, but you are right. He seems experienced enough, answered any and all questions thoroughly and he has made me feel like I'd be okay with him delivering my baby. Glad you are still liking the OB practice…
I completely understand why this would be weird. One of the things I would really miss if I had a man OB is that I could say, "what did you do?" or ask what it felt like & they could give me an actual description because they'd had a baby!! I feel like that's the biggest thing for me – I'd want a woman because they have probably experienced exactly what I'm experiencing.